By Karen Deis
I sometimes have a tough time accepting compliments…
“I like your leopard skinny jeans” – “Oh, this old thing!”
“The blog you wrote last week was awesome” – “Oh, it was nothing.”
“I really liked the idea you gave me” – “Oh, it really wasn’t that good!”
I think women have a tough time accepting compliments. I’m sure you’ve said to yourself at one time or another: I don’t like to toot my own horn. I’m not the type to brag. I don’t deserve it. They must be lying. They feel sorry for me.
Stop it right now. A compliment is a gift. If you don’t accept it, in effect what you are really doing is turning the “gift” down, insulting the person giving it and subtly suggesting that you don’t value their opinion!
Break the habit of self-deprecation and start doing this instead:
- A simple thank you will do – Look into their eyes and smile! (Or Email Smiley Faces)
- Be appreciative – “I appreciate the compliment, especially from you.”
- Recognize others – If someone else was involved, mention them too.
- Ask for advice – “Thank you—and I was wondering if you could help me…”
- Make a special effort to share your accomplishments – “I’m proud of myself today because…”
The good news is that mastering the art of graciously receiving a compliment helps you become more self-assured. The more self-assured you are, the more compliments you’ll get.
So, let the warm fuzzies begin!
Karen Deis, Co-Founder, MortgageGirlfriends.com. Since 2007, she has provided coaching, content, mastermind retreats and sales strategies to help mortgage women increase their income.